In my recent experience, the person who I now believe to be a narcissist, went to my employer with a list of accusations against me. This was after threatening me, running me down to others, and then having a major public rant against me.
As I had been proceeding in a professional manner, documented everything and had witness statements, my employer knew the person was in the wrong and even a bit unbalanced. The weird thing was, I’m told at the end of their rant, they went with a, “We hope one day we can be friends with Brad again.”
That was puzzling to me. Upon reflection, I realized that not once did they take account for their actions or apologize for all the false statements. Then I read this. I think I get it now.
Check out Shannon Thomas’ book, “Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse.”