“[Some think that ] If we can make ourselves believe something, then God is obligated to do it. Prayer, in this sense, becomes a means by which we can exercise sovereignty over God by our ability to convince ourselves that something we want is true.”*
Do you have a person in your life who only talks with you when they want something from you? Nobody likes to be used.
Often the way we pray makes us users. We want systems and formulas to make our prayers more effective; we want to do the right things in order for God to hear us and do what we want.
We miss the point of prayer. Prayer is all about relationship with God. Like a couple who are falling in love talking about everything and anything so they can get to know each other, deepening and strengthening their relationship. Are you ready to move from user to lover?
*I have lost the source for this quote but I keep looking for it.